Seattle, WA

My Natural Hair Journey

I never thought in a million years that I would be sharing my natural hair journey. It wasn’t until three weeks ago that I started embracing my natural hair. Like many of you lovely dolls, I grew up with my hair being permed all the time. Unfortunately, my Mother wasn’t well educated about the long-term effects of perming my hair.

Around 2015 I started educating myself more about my natural hair. I was not happy with my hair, partially because of the chemicals in the perm process. This resulted to my hair being damaged. My hair was super thin and was hardly growing. This made me very self-conscious of myself and it didn’t help also that the person I was with liked “Girls with Straight Long Hair”. Quickly, I turned to wearing extensions and I still didn’t know how to properly take care of them either. My hair would be braided down, and I would leave some out to blend it in with my extensions. Little did I know I was just damaging my hair even more due to the fact that my hair was growing but the top part I left out was being damaged by heat. I would flat iron my hair every morning.Shortly after I moved to Seattle, Washington I met an amazing and talented hairstylist, Ana. My hair completely changed. To be honest having a talented, and educated hairstylist really helps with the growth of your hair. Ana has truly educated me more about my hair and eventually talked me into going completely natural. No, I didn’t do the “BIG CHOP” like many ladies do. Every hair appointment I told Ana to cut off my permed hair. My transition was very slow since I didn’t do the “Big Chop”. To be honest I was very scared. Looking back now I should have cut all my permed hair in the beginning. So, the other day on my insta-story I asked you lovely dolls to ask me questions about my natural hair. Below I will answer all your questions and share with you how I grew my natural hair.How did you grow your hair after cutting it? I grew my hair through protective hairstyles. Instead of getting sew-ins, my hairstylist made me a wig. Best decision I ever made. Having a custom wig, I was able to easy care for my natural hair. Making sure it was washed, deep conditioned, and moisturized. I also rocked different style of braids. In addition, I stayed away from putting heat in my hair. When I washed my hair, I just let it air dry, never blow dried or straightened my hair. Only a few weeks ago I blow dried my hair. To this day I still refuse to straighten my hair. Lastly drink lots of water, eat your veggies and mind your own business. How do you take care of your edges? I take care of my edges by staying away from hair glues, tight braids, quick weaves, improperly extension installs, and unprofessional hairstylists. I know a lot of beautiful dolls who lose their edges by wearing their wigs all the time without properly taking care of their hair underneath. When you wear your wig have a hair cap underneath. Make sure it’s not too tight around your edges. Same thing applies when you are going to bed. Always wear a silk loose hair cap when going to bed. Highly suggest buying one from African Print Take Over. Most importantly I keep them moisturized with Virgin Hair Fertilizer or Jamaican Castor Oil. Do you know what porosity level your hair is? Yes, my hair is normal level.

Which product do you use when you’re doing the Bantu knots in your hair? I use Shea Moisture Strength & Restore Leave-in Conditioner or Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Frizz-Free Curl Mousse. Use only small amount for each section.

What basic products (easy to reach) did you begin your journey with? I used and still use Shea Moisture Strengthen, Grow & Restore Shampoo and Conditioner Set. Shea Moisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen, Grow & Restore Hair Serum. Virgin Hair Fertilizer. Diane Rake hair detangler. Was this look from a twist out? Your hair is so full and gorgeous! No, I braided my hair in medium sections and unbraided them the next morning. Used my big detangler comb and picked out my hair half way through. Will post video next week.

Your hair is so fine Fri! How often do you moisture? What products work for you? Why thank you. I make sure my hair is moisturized every week. The products that truly works for me is virgin hair fertilizer, organic castor oil, and Shea Moisture Strength & Restore Leave-in Conditioner, Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Frizz-Free Curl Mousse, Shea Moisture Strengthen, Grow & Restore Shampoo and Conditioner Set.

What is your favorite protective style? It used to be small box braids but now it’s my custom wig my hairstylist Ana made for me. She braids my hair neatly so that my wig stays flat and looking fabulous. I love how I am still able to care for my hair underneath. Plus taking off my wig when I get home is the best feeling. What it your current hair goal? To continue growing my crown and learn different hairstyles to style it. Right now, I only have two hairstyles mastered lol.

How often do you wash your hair? I wash my hair every two weeks sometimes every three weeks.

I enjoyed putting this blog post together for you lovely dolls. Wished I could have answered all of your questions. I hope the questions I picked were very helpful. Excited to hear you feedbacks. See you on the next blog post.

Shop My Look & Hair Products: 

Earrings: Here

Neon Yellow Espadrille Wedges: Here

Long Poplin Dress: Here

Upside Down Hat Bag: Here

Bracelets: Here

Shea Moisture Strengthen, Grow & Restore Shampoo and Conditioner Set: Here

Shea Moisture Strengthen & Restore Leave-In Conditioner: Here

Shea Moisture Coconut Hibiscus Hold & Shine Daily Moisture Mist: Here

SheaMoisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen, Grow & Restore Hair Serum: Here

Virgin Hair Fertilizer: Here


SheaMoisture 7.5 oz Coconut & Hibiscus Frizz-Free Curl Mousse: Here

Diane Rake Rage Hair detangler: Here

Photographer: Michael P. Hoyle 

xoxo,Frilancy Hoyle
  1. Mwila nkazi

    I’m happy my question was one one the questions answered on this post. “What is your current hair goal?”. Your goals are good. With the knowledge you have on how to manage your hair consistently, you will achieve your goal for sure.
    Mine is to have fun with it by playing with color and use of little manipulation.
    I colored my hair last summer to gold/blonde in ombré. I was happy with it but I have lost lots of length because of it. I might have to go back to Black in a few months though some IG pictures are very tempting.

    • frilancy

      I wish I could play with color. Sadly I am scared of messing up hair with chemicals. Gold/blonde ombré is beautiful, especially for Spring and summer season. Thankfully my hair is naturally jet black. I will have color hair secretly through you lol

  2. Clarity

    Omg so helpful! Can’t wait to slowly start putting some of your tips to use. I use Shea Moisture as well. I’ve been putting off getting a custom wig done but I think I’m convinced now! Thanks Fri!